When
you are stuck, the more effort you put into trying to un-stuck
yourself, the worse off you become. It’s a little like being stuck in
quicksand—the more you struggle the quicker you sink. The first
solution is always to relax and often move slightly in the direction
that is opposite to what your instincts tell you. For example, a pilot
going into a nosedive must first push gently into the dive to get air
flowing under the wings properly. At that point he can begin to control
the airplane. Similarly, when you start to skid in your car, you must
first steer into the skid until you gain control over the car—which our
natural reaction is to do the opposite.
If you are stuck in your goal of becoming an excellent trader, try
doing the opposite of your instincts. If you must take a trade, make it
okay not to take the trade. Instead, move toward working on your
emotions.
The second solution is to focus on what you want. When you focus on
limitations, you feel the emotions of the stop sign or the limitation.
When you focus on what you want to achieve, then you begin to see
possibilities and new resources that open you up. What is your focus?
Finally, the third solution is to focus on being
what you want to be. If you want to be a great trader, don’t focus on
what they have or do, focus on their state of being. What is it like to
be a great trader? What is it like to step into their shoes?
